Are we ready for love if we don’t love ourselves?

Demi Slyt, Opinion Editor

Are we ready to love someone if we don’t love ourselves? Most of the time it’s probably not something that comes to mind. However, it is something to consider if you are doubting yourself or your current relationship. There is obviously a reason for that doubt even if you aren’t exactly sure what it is or if you want to face it. Maybe it’s because you aren’t quite sure how things will work out, or maybe it’s because you’re afraid that it’s too good to be true. You could be experiencing this lingering sense of doubt because you feel as though you don’t deserve the love you have in your life. That could be due to a lack of self-confidence within yourself, not seeing your own self worth or value. You aren’t alone in this. 

As someone who’s recently been through a breakup I can say that I know what it feels like to doubt yourself. I also know what it feels like to not value yourself, and feeling like you don’t deserve love in general. It is a completely human thing to feel, it’s normal and it is scary. In my opinion, the ending of my last relationship has given me a lot to think about, and I feel as though it has changed me for the better. I am more confident in myself and more sure of myself than I’ve been in a very long time. I’m putting myself first for once, making the tough decisions and living with them. I’ve been on a few dates, trying to find what I like or don’t like about people. 

You may not be in a relationship right now, but you might be seeking one or just “seeing where things go.” That’s completely fine but you do need to ask yourself an important question, am I ready for this? Am I willing to make this commitment and am I confident enough in myself to take this next leap? If you are unsure of the answer then I would suggest that you take some time to think about what you want. It’s important to not feel pressured to make a decision right away. Love takes time and communication, even if it’s loving yourself. There’s this quote I once read and it said, “I am learning to love the sound of my own feet walking away from things that aren’t meant for me.” That will stay with me forever.